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Lost That Lovin’ Feeling? Get it Back

July 17, 2019

Not much beats the exciting feeling of the beginning of a new relationship, but after a while, the butterflies fade and things can start to feel a little boring. But if your romance gets a little meh, it doesn’t have to stay that way. Relationship experts advise putting more effort into it, like you did when you first got together, and doing these things to fall in love with your partner all over again.

Do something to make your partner’s life better – Anything unexpected, from doing one of their chores to making them a nice lunch for work can help remind you that this person is important to you.
Spend time apart – Absence really does make the heart grow fonder and giving each other a little space can rekindle your spark.
Think about what they need – Consider what your S.O. is going through, both in general and in the moment, and see if you can do anything to respond to their needs. That change in perspective can help bring you closer.
Spend more “present time” with them – Even if you live together, stuff like kids, emails, and TV can leave you disconnected from each other, so focus on spending quality time together to connect without distractions.
Have silly time together – Research shows couples who laugh together a lot have happier relationships and stay together for the long haul.
Stop and notice your partner – It’s easy to check out a little when life gets busy, but really paying attention to who your S.O. is and what they do can help you fall back in love again.
Take turns planning surprise date nights – Spending time together—just the two of you—is important, and surprising each other with date night plans keeps it fun and fresh.
Make a list of how your partner has made your life better – Stop taking your sweetie for granted by spending 15 minutes writing down the ways your life is better with them in it. From the small stuff, like “he did the dishes” to biggies, like “she taught me I’m unconditionally lovable,” it’ll make you appreciate them more and feel excited about your future together.